FREE GUIDE FROM ALLISON ZAMANI
3 Free Scripts to Start the Sex Conversation
With Your Partner
If your sex life with your partner is not what you would like it to be, starting the conversation can feel overwhelming. You may not know where to start-or worry that bringing it up could turn into a fight.
Allison Zamani created these three scripts to help you begin that conversation with more clarity, vulnerability and intention.
WHAT'S INSIDE
Start the Conversation Without Making It Worse
These scripts are designed to help you choose an approach that fits where you are right now and give you a place to begin.
01
Afraid It Will Make Things Worse?
A script for couples who have tried talking before and ended up defensive, angry or shut down.
02
Always the One Initiating?
A script for the higher-desire partner who feels rejected and has stopped wanting to initiate.
03
You Know Something Has Changed?
A script for when you cannot identify exactly what is wrong, but you know your physical connection has changed.
BEFORE YOU BEGIN
The Goal Isn't to Solve Everything in One Conversation
The goal of these conversations is to signal to yourself and your partner that you can talk about this without having it blow up in your faces.
Before starting, make sure your partner is in a place-emotionally and logistically-where they are open to having the conversation.
FROM YOUR COACH
You can bring sex back.
Let me show you how. I'm Allison Zamani, Sex Coach and Writer, the mind behind SexTherapyWithAlliZ.
In this course, you'll learn to
Understand what caused you and your partner to lose your sexual connection
Repair the emotional connection between you
Bring back sex in a loving, positive, fun and sexy way
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Not sure how to bring up sex with your partner?
3 Scripts to Start the Sex Conversation
Three ways to start the conversation with your partner, built for the three ways couples usually get stuck.
Get the free scripts →* Yeh, Lorenz, Wickrama, Conger & Elder, "Relationships Among Sexual Satisfaction, Marital Quality, and Marital Instability at Midlife," Journal of Family Psychology, 20(2), 2006.
† Co-parenting cost figures are rough national averages, not quotes: school supplies from the National Retail Federation's back-to-school spending survey; custody-specific legal fees from typical flat-fee ranges reported by family law sources (can run well above this for contested cases); co-parenting class costs from standard court-ordered program pricing (high-conflict or specialized programs cost more); child therapy from average per-session rates, multiplied by a rough estimate of 12 sessions. Actual costs vary by state, provider, and case. Not legal or financial advice.
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